YOU ARE ENOUGH

Hello Lovers,

Trust we've been coping just fine so far. 

I pray that the world returns to normal pretty soon.

I want to talk about an issue that I realize most people find difficult to deal with. When some of these people are faced with this situation, It changes something about them or leaves a negative feeling in them. It is a known fact that people react to things differently and that we are stronger than one another. The way Mr A will handle an issue might be totally different from how Mr B will handle that same issue.

The world we live in is the type that constantly seeks to dictate who you should be and how you should live, trust me if you don't know who you are, you will accept whatever the world throws at you.  To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing it's best night and day to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle and never stop fighting.  I think about this often and I just wonder why we have to beat up ourselves so much on another person's perception of us. Why? I mean, just why???. Also, when you are nice to people and they don't acknowledge it or appreciate it not to talk of reciprocating, why do we still feel the need to blame ourselves for such behaviours? Why do we keep pushing ourselves their way?. 

Someone said something bad to you or criticized you destructively and you hold on to the criticism making it dictate how you live your life. You are so bothered about what someone thinks about you that you forget what being happy feels like!. It is so unnecessary and totally unfair to your being. You are only who you allow yourself to be. Never let anyone dictate who you are to you. Nobody has that much right over you. 

Someone thinks you are not brilliant and you start wallowing in that thought forever. Someone thinks you are not a nice person regardless of what you do and you won't allow yourself have peace because of that? Someone thinks you are not "enough", you are not good enough, you are a failure, you are ugly, you are unimportant e. t.c and you dwell in that feeling and deprive yourself the freedom, the joy  bestowed upon you by your heavenly father! It is unacceptable!.

 The first solution to this is knowing yourself. Have you met yourself yet? Know who you are and what you are worth. Knowing who you are will help you handle criticism better. Nobody should know you better than you know yourself. People only see what they wish to see in you . It is now left for you to show them who you want them to see. To be honest, people will not always be nice to you. Some people will just not see your worth regardless, not because you are a bad person but because they've conditioned their minds to condemn or destroy due to reasons best known to them.

When they try to make you believe that you are who they painted you to be, strive to prove them wrong. Shock them with your awesomeness. Ignore their hurtful words and dazzle them with the greatness embedded in you. Walk with your hair down and shoulder high. Sooner or later they will really see the stuff you are made of.

It is also very necessary that you posses a very high self-esteem because only when your self-esteem is high can you break free from the slanderers. You don't have to be rich before you showcase your self- esteem. Taking pride in yourself and your achievements no matter how little it seems is enough riches. Loving , respecting and appreciating yourself should matter most to you. Don't struggle to be part of somebody's life especially when they make it so glaring that they don't want you there. Don't keep struggling to maintain a relationship with who makes you feel unappreciated and unloved. That person is not more important than you. He or she is not more valuable than you are. You don't need that person to validate you because you worth much more. It is really embarrassing and highly degrading to have someone treat you in an unwanted way making you loose your self-respect. If someone values you, he or she will reciprocate your kind gestures or at least acknowledge and appreciate them not making you feel like they are doing you a favour by accepting you into their lives. 

Please note that the essence of this write-up is not to ignore feedbacks. Feedbacks are good, they make us become better human beings, but what I am stressing here is that you weigh what comes to you and filter what you take in . Some feedbacks are just totally wrong. People who don't really know you feels they can judge you and tag you just anything that comes to their mind not minding if they are right or wrong. Some might even form an opinion of you based on what they have heard from other people and not based on their own observation of you while others are just out there to make you feel less of yourself; to bully you sort of. These are what I advise that we frown against.

Constructive criticism or feedbacks are good. Destructive criticism and bullying of any sort is not acceptable and should not be condoned. You are your own fighter. You have to stand against what is destructive to your mental health and emotional well-being. Anything that seeks to take your joy away and constantly seek to make you feel less of yourself should be combatted. You don't need anybody to validate you before you realize how valuable you are. You are precious. You are valuable. You are lovely. You are good-looking. You are so smart. You are enough. You are the best of your kind and guess what? You matter the most.